When I was a child I was always taught that you're technically not grown until you can hold your own (meaning pay your own rent, light bill, water bill). However as I get older I see that nothing is ever satisfying to others. I am a family oriented person and I am still considered a child in they're eyes. This I can understand and deal with. I can not deal with a person that is the same age as me who is not or can not handle there own self judging me and telling me that I am not grown. If your relationship is not one I idolize then I don't think you should be giving me relationship advice unless I ask your opinion. My motto has always been how can you tell me something if you do not have all your problems worked out. For instance "If you are fit how can you be a personal trainer?" "If your hair is always not in tack why would I ask you to be my hair stylist?" A person that I considered my best friend just told my sister who is known as a "snitch" everything that I have been telling her about my relationship with my boyfriend. I don't feel that it was any of her business to tell however she said she's grown. She said that I wasn't because I do not walk away from my relationship. I don't think that this makes you a grown up. I do not feel that having a child makes you a grown up because children have children this day in age. I think that its a process everyone has there own ways in maturing.